Relationship Compatibility!  A Guide To Propel You!

"Our business in life is not to get ahead of others, but to get ahead of ourselves, to break our own records, to outstrip our yesterday by our today, to do our work with more force than ever before."
Stewart B. Johnson

There are so many factors that comprise relationship compatibility.  Blended together from life experiences and what we choose to learn, these factors determine the level of our acceptance of differing personality types.

It is a virtual certainty that whatever path our life takes us, we will be given the opportunity and requirement to work with people in a productive manner.  How willing we are to accept that challenge will determine our success ratio.

Understanding each differing personality type is a skill that isn't common because it isn't always fun.  We're forced to be more accepting and maybe even notice our own faults.  Who wants that?

To reach your own personal goals will require the relationship compatibility skills to incorporate the talents of others in some type of team building techniques.  Not many goals can be accomplished solely by yourself.  Usually a support system is crucial.

Relationship Compatibility Taken To The Mountaintop

There is an excellent book written by Jamie Clarke and Alan Hobson that will help you in some of the areas that we will discuss on this page.  The title is "The Power Of Passion."  The subtitle is "Achieve Your Own Everests."  As you can imagine it will detail the efforts and trials of their first two attempts to reach the summit of one the seven wonders of the world!

The lessons of this great book resonate in much of my life and I'm sure will in your life as well.

In part of the book they talk about the importance of building the team.  I've found that to be true so often when putting teams together to focus on a goal.  Individual talents are necessary, but skills can often be taught.  It's better to understand relationship compatibility to prepare for the tough times.  And there will be tough times.

"So often in life, especially in business, team members are chosen on the basis of experience first and compatibility second...Hard skills can be taught or acquired.  Soft skills such as interpersonal abilities and equanimity cannot."   Alan Hobson

In the book they openly discuss the strain in their friendship when a clear choice was in front of them.  One had to step back from the forefront to allow the team a better chance to succeed.

This one has been a challenge for me in the past.  I'm sure for many of you as well.  I've worked hard to bring a project to a point of successful completion.  But things come up that require one of us to step back to let the team go to the top.

Servant leadership is tough.  It is really tough to keep the "Mt. Everest" in clear view.  Especially when that view is blocked by personal aspirations.

Jamie Clarke and Alan Hobson are very frank in their writing on how this affected their friendship and the dynamics of their team goal of summiting Mt. Everest.  There is much to be said for single minded focus on a goal. 

But situational leadership does require someone to take the long view.  Having the inner strength to make that decision is a rare trait. 

Creating Smart Goals

Another part of this great edition centers on creating smart goals.  The authors used past failures to bring about new creative ideas to improve their chances of success in the second attempt.  The goal didn't change.  The plans evolved.  Goals are in concrete.  Plans are in sand.

There is a process to goal setting.  If you read the page about Stephen Covey's goal setting book, you already know this to be true.  How to set goals is the second step behind knowing what you expect to achieve from that exercise.

Having the right group of people around you will speed up this process.  Relationship compatibility in action again.  It always comes back to that.  Synergy overcomes conflict.  Here is a link to some valuable advice from Dr. Covey about building team synergy.

In "The Power Of Passion", you'll see how time management techniques played a huge part in their goal setting and preparation.  We all get those 24 hours.  How we use them is another question.  I would suggest another book for help in this area.  In the "how to book" section,  found in the left margin, you'll find a great book by Brian Tracy.  "Eat That Frog" is an odd title for sure.  But the lessons are outstanding.

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Inspirational stories such as this one always show me by actual example how to get past roadblocks, usually placed by my own doubts or fears.  Jamie Clarke and Alan Hobson discuss how the group talked about their own personal fears in order to prepare the overall  team to help each other.  Sounds like a team building exercise that could guarantee relationship compatibility to me.

And they handle the biggest questions.  What to do when the big choices come up.  As they do for all of us.  What do we do when the choice between our stated goal comes up against helping someone else?  And how do we react to setbacks?

There was a point where the team had to choose between pushing for the summit or taking a badly injured person back down the mountain.  As you will read in this incredibly motivational account, they re-focused their efforts toward their teammate.  Relationship compatibility in a most extreme example!

From the pages,"We turned our backs on the summit and we went after our friend.  Sometimes in life, there are more important things than getting a goal."  And a little further in the chapter, "Sometimes it takes more courage and strength to turn your back on a goal than to continue."

The Third Time Was The Charm

I was able to hear Jamie Clarke speak in person about his trips up Mt. Everest.  He brought along a spectacular slide show of the combination of majestic natural beauty and the inherent dangers involved with taking on some big challenges.

"Everest became an intense reason to attack each day and better myself in numerous ways....Each day and often each hour, I realize a goal and enjoy the satisfaction of being my best in the process."   Jamie Clarke

He was able to weave his accounts into a really accurate comparison to all of our own "personal Everests."  He talked about the conflicting feelings related to the first two expeditions and how it affected their relationship compatibility.

After years of planning and preparation to have both of them get so close only to fall short was devastating.  But then after a bit of reflection he saw how much they had accomplished.  And how much they learned from the experience.  Success is of course in the journey.  Not in the finish.

So you know, they did reach the summit on the third try.  You can also read about that adventure in their follow up book, "Above All Else."

Near the end of " The Power Of Passion", they write, "The people who share this planet and the events of our lives are more closely linked than any of us may know... We are climbers connected by an invisible rope."

I keep that in mind as I work on this web site.  What can I put out there next to help that one person get past an obstacle?  What book can I recommend to help one other individual go farther so they can pay it forward?

We are a connected society.  Relationship compatibility is the rope that pulls us up to greater heights of success.  Our own Mt. Everests will be reached as we aid other people in their journey.

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Just below is a quote from "Don't Sweat The Small Stuff" by Richard Carlson.  The chapter title is "Open Your Heart To Compassion." 

"Every day we are given hundreds of opportunities to practice compassion in action.  We can learn to be less reactive and live with more patience.

We can smile when others are serious.  We can drive our cars more carefully, pick up litter on the streets, recycle, and reduce our consumption.

We can resolve conflicts rather than create them, and we can become less judgemental and more inclusive.  When someone is aggressive, we can teach them to be more peaceful.  Instead of waiting for an example, we can be the example.

The more compassion that enters your heart, the happier and more peaceful you will become.  By knowing that you are doing your part to create a better world-whatever form that takes-you will fill any void that exists in your life, and you will begin to find the peace you are looking for."

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