Success intelligence is most often the end result of having or developing the internal ability to control your emotions and to respond in a positive way to challenging situations. This ability is often referred to as emotional intelligence. This next installment of "Teach Your Children Well" will focus on helping your son or daughter and also yourself acquire that important attribute.
All the way back in 1983, Howard Gardner wrote a book titled, " Frames Of Mind: The Theory Of Multiple Intelligences." He was a professor at Harvard Graduate School of Education. In his compilation he discusses seven different types of intelligence and how they often relate to academic success in school.
I think the first six are part of an individual's makeup. Without a doubt background and upbringing have an effect. And it is certain a person could have parts of more than one makeup. But I think the seventh one is developed over time. And I believe it is this characteristic that defines emotional intelligence and translates into success intelligence.
So here are those traits from the featured author.
Those blessed with verbal-linguistic intelligence are usually very good at memorizing dates and text material. Reading and writing related school subjects are often their best classes. They learn best in a lecture type setting where they can listen, take notes and read the subject matter. They are left side of the brain dominant.
School is usually very easy for them and they are quite often near the top of their academic class. You might find many physicians and lawyers coming out of this group.
The members of this group generally excel in math related classes. They usually love numbers and can solve numerical problems with ease. They display a certain logic and ability to be task oriented. Usually people with this skill set do well in other school subjects because of their ability to remain assignment focused. They are left brain dominant as well.
Doctors could come out of this group as well and would be joined by engineers, financial analysts and scientists.
Students in this section are physically gifted. They learn better by actually doing things and being active. At times a closed, lecture type setting can be more difficult for them. Their skills come out best on an athletic field or in a workshop or perhaps a dance studio.
From this group you might find professional athletes, soldiers, models or actors and skilled mechanic or pilots.
Those with type of intelligence are very strong in art, design, visualization and even puzzle solving. They are considered right brain dominant. Students with this type of intelligence may not do as well in a traditional school setting. However they may excel in schools that specialize in art, design or architecture.
From this group will come fashion designers, artists and architects.
This is an obvious one. Music, rhythm, and melody are their strong areas. People in this group are often excellent singers and musicians. They are definitely right brain dominant.
Those with this intelligence gift may not do as well from a grade standpoint in a traditional school setting. However in a musical environment, they would most likely flourish.
These individuals are true communicators. They are the outgoing, "people" people. They can be sensitive to others feelings and are usually very popular.
Often they succeed in traditional school settings because of their popularity. They might be consistent winners of student government elections and other such events. You might see members of this skill set move into politics, teaching, social work or even sales of some kind.
This one is also called emotional intelligence. Self-reflection, and an understanding of your self would be characteristics of this group. You would be keenly aware of your own strengths and weaknesses. You would know how well you handle various situations, especially stress related situations.
We posted a page about emotional intelligence in business. In that page we touched on some successful traits. As we expand a little bit in this page, it is important to note that having emotional intelligence doesn't mean you are devoid of emotions. It just means you know how to control them. You know it is OK to feel anger as long as you are not out of control because of that anger.
It is alright to be hurt by someone or something, but not alright to hurt someone else in retaliation. As the most important teachers in your child's life, if you model this self control, they will see it. And most likely they will do as you do.
There are plenty of students who excel in the science lab or on the ball field. But they lack this most important success intelligence and let their lack of self control ruin important parts of their lives. Many addictions spring from this problem. In fact a large part of our heart disease issues are due to a lack of emotional intelligence. We all know that bad diet leads to bad health. We all know smoking is a killer. But the problems still exist.
On the other hand those who master this success intelligence are often described as someone who...
Achieves her goals
Is cool under pressure
Keeps his promises
Admits his mistakes ( How rare is that one?)
Growing up physically is only part of the process. Too many adults don't grow up emotionally. Time passes and they continue to cave in to mistakes and bad habits. Then they wonder what happened. It couldn't be their fault. Could it?
Teach your children well to work daily to grow their own emotional intelligence. It does translate into success intelligence in every part of their life. Your child may not triumph at all sectors of a mainstream school setting. They may not have the intelligence quality highlighted by the author for a particular subject area.
But as we've seen so often, success in school is no guarantee of success in life. There are plenty of valedictorians who struggle in life after school. And plenty of people who don't hold degrees who lead extraordinary lives of immense accomplishment. Bill Gates, Michael Dell, Julie Andrews, Henry Ford... Different fields, but common traits. Vision, drive, belief and determination. These are also traits of success intelligence.
High tests scores are the measure used in the mainstream school. Not always in life. Teach your children well to find the genius within them by developing that seventh intelligence listed in "Frames Of Mind: The Theory of Multiple Intelligences." Success intelligence translates from emotional intelligence.